Coping with Christmas: Tips for Separated Families

Our Family Dispute Resolution team would also like to share some child-focused tips:

1) Plan Early

The best arrangement is one that you and your co-parent agree is the best for your children.

Attempt to plan early, don’t assume you know what is happening during the holidays. Are you and your children’s co-parent on the same page? Do you have a joint plan for Christmas and the holidays?

If you are unable to communicate or unable reach an agreement, Family Dispute Resolution may be a service that can assist.

2) Create a Parenting Plan  

A child-focused parenting plan considers what will be best for your children. An agreement between parents can provide children with a sense of predictability and reassurance, ensuring everyone has time to plan which may also help alleviate potential conflicts.   

3) Communicate Respectfully and focus on the children  

If safe to do so, adopt a respectful, business-like approach when communicating with your co-parent. Keep discussions future and child focused.   

Keep conflict and adult issues away from children.  

Consider what is your best method of communication for now with your co-parent. Is it phone, text message, email, face to face or a parenting app? 

Do not use your child as the messenger.  

4) Assisting your children  

Support your children with reassurance, stability and thoughtful planning during this time. In an age-appropriate manner, prepare your children ahead of time about what to expect over the Christmas and holiday period.   

Reassure your children it’s okay to have mixed emotions. Listen without judgment.  

Allow your child to have a positive time with their other parent and extended family without fear of hurting you.  

You can’t control everything, but you can choose to control and focus on the environment you create for your children. You can create new traditions with your children.  

5) Be kind to yourself  

Your emotional wellbeing matters, this can be a really difficult time. Being attentive to your children begins with looking after your own wellbeing. Choose self-care that supports you and seek help when you need it.  

More information

If you would like more information or support to resolve conflicts, reach mutual agreements, and minimise the impact of conflict on children, please call us on 1800 123 228 or click on the link below. 

For more information visit Family Dispute Resolution – CatholicCare Victoria